What to Say When Someone Suffers a Loss

Seeing someone we care about grieving the loss of their loved one is a difficult thing to endure. We want to show them support and say the right words to them, but most often we are not sure what those might be. If you have found yourself in this portion before, or are going through it currently, directors of funeral homes in Hallsville, TX have this advice.

If you are sending a sympathy card and or flowers, you will need to handwrite something on the card. This message doesn’t have to be long, and in fact, is often times better as a short and simple note. Many times the sympathy you chose will say the words you are needing to convey. Still, you should always add a personal touch. Some examples of things you can write are:

While attending the funeral service it is entirely appropriate to offer your condolences to the family. What you will say will depend on how well you know them and the deceased. If you were not very close and more of a coworker or acquaintance, a simple “I’m sorry for your loss” is fine.

If you were close to the deceased, then adding in something personal shows the family their loved one was special to you which is always appreciated. This could be something as simple as, “I’m sorry that you lost your Mother (her name), she was a wonderful woman and will be deeply missed.”

Some other examples of things you can say are:

Just as with the sympathy card, you want to keep your sentiment short. Don’t take up a lot of the family’s time by rambling. Offer them your sympathy and give them space as others also wish to give their condolences.

If we have had a loss ourselves, it is common to want to say something like, “I know how you feel”. Even if you have the best of intentions, refrain from saying this as you really don’t know how they feel since everyone experiences grief and loss differently. This statement also takes the focus off of them and puts it onto you which is not where it should be.

Also, avoid saying things such as “they are in a better place” or “at least they had a good life”. Neither of these statements offers sympathy or comfort to the family who is grieving.

Knowing what to say is always something that everyone struggles with. We hope this advice helps you when you have to attend services at funeral homes in Hallsville, TX.